Tradition comforts us and makes us feel grounded — regardless of what’s caving in around us. It represents caring. Whether it’s pizza on Friday nights or an annual celebration, it reminds us that somebody stands with us. We feel known and appreciated; likewise, when we stand alone, we can feel unseen and taken for granted.
Celebrating a tradition with somebody says “I love you” or “you’re important to me” … with actions, rather than words. My husband Sam and I kiss before dinner every night. It reminds us to take a deep breath and really be with each other. We’ve all seen couples eating at the same table, but not with each other. Traditions remind us to show up!
Granted, YOU can get lost in an elaborate tradition. If you keep it simple, you’re more apt to stay present and satisfy its purpose. Let’s say it’s his birthday: If you eat dinner at your favorite neighborhood restaurant and surprise him with a gift on his pillow, honoring him is the main event. On the other hand, if you make reservations at THE place across town, buy a new dress, that ends up cutting your waistline when you sit down, and more gifts than you have time to wrap, you have less attention to give him.… More