Love has no agenda …

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My birthday, my annual swimsuit shot (taken by Sam at Silver Springs yesterday). At 61, I’m still learning to love and be who I am, within and without. Most days I’m trying to give you a picture of the inside. But one must reflect the other. … More

Thank you, Precious Friends, with all my heart, for every expression of birthday love.

I want to acknowledge a couple things. First, I seldom have a tough day. I stumble, but I stay on my feet. And in the process, I know the sweetness of hard work. And sometimes it doesn’t even feel like hard work. It feels more like, yes, I’m doing this! I feel the reward of growth before actually reaping it. That’s not so tough. And that describes my Sunday. I fell asleep crying, but it was a soul-searching, contemplative cry, not a sad cry.

And then there was Monday, my actual birthday. I could anticipate the sweetness of the pain, but I was hurting. And there were moments when the reward didn’t seem worth the pain. I knew it was, intellectually, but there were moments when I didn’t feel up to it.

On Tuesday, yesterday, I made this post: “My capacity for joy can’t exceed my capacity for pain. And so it is with a brave and grateful heart that I face both.”

By last night, I was reveling in love’s peace and joy again, the kind that always follows a good round of pain.

I don’t ever want to forget that pain is inherent in growth, empathy, and compassion.… More

Love IS the magic. And we need not force it. We can’t. We CAN get our ego in love’s way by trying to control and resist.

Let go. Trust love. Trust the magic.

Trust you. … More

You can’t really turn a frog into a prince. But you can mistake a prince for a frog! In fact, everybody is somebody’s prince! Don’t pass yours up because he doesn’t wear a crown.

Some men have yet to realize their royal blood. You can’t do it for them; but you may want to offer them a kiss, without getting too attached. Others don’t strut their crown; because they have nothing to prove. Try to see past the green and the crown to what’s inside.

What matters can’t be seen or touched. Don’t be fooled, though; as within, so without. Look for evidence of love!

~ Is he healthy and well groomed?
~ Is his home well cared for?
~ Is his mind nurtured by the truth?
~ Is his spirit free?

Every frog is awfully cute in his own right. Find one (male or female) that feels like going home, home to love.

Happy kissing! … More

“The best women will always be attracted to the men with the strongest convictions,” writes one reader.

Maybe he’s on to something, assuming that the men with the strongest convictions also live by them. We’re all looking for our way, so when somebody seems to have found theirs, that somebody (male or female) can be very attractive.

I’m not talking about arrogant or narrow-minded. Those qualities don’t attract the “best” women — or men. When somebody really knows the truth, he has a quiet self-assurance, and he’s not close-minded or threatened by a difference in philosophy.

I am talking about somebody who knows what he believes independent of society or religion or political party or club, somebody who has heard his own music and isn’t afraid to dance to it.

Imagine the earth as one giant dance floor. You can look around and see people who go through the motions as though they can’t quite feel the music. You see others trying to find some good moves to mimic. And, you see others who close their eyes and move effortlessly to the beat.

People with strong convictions hear their own music … and they’re not afraid to get out there and dance.… More