Love has no agenda …

Obstacles are easier to overcome than excuses. When we WANT an excuse, we can always come up with another one.

Some of our greatest heroes had many obstacles, but no excuses.

And Love is the real superhero. … More

When we think of “playing big,” we might imagine fame or mega bucks. Playing big is really playing fearlessly, though. What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

Would you go out and conquer the world–or save it? Get a job, quit a job? Or, would you stay home with the baby?

There is no right or wrong answer. But love is fearless … and it’s BIG! YOU’RE BIG! … More

Love is always guided by knowledge. You can’t fix a loving dinner without knowing what he likes to eat. You can’t give her a loving massage without knowing how much pressure she wants.

Get to know your partner well enough to respect him for who he is on the inside. Know her well enough to respond because you want to, before she asks twice. Know him well enough to express caring about what matters to him.

And don’t worry about knowing her too well. You can’t. Knowledge purifies and deepens love.… More

Passion is not an option; it’s a requirement. Because there is no peace without it!

Passion drives us to create, to persevere, and excel, to do our best work, to be our best self. With compelling enthusiasm and conviction, passion empowers us to be true to ourselves.… More

No matter how horrible your secret, keeping it is more destructive than the secret itself; and sharing it will break its hold on you.

When you decide you have something to be ashamed of, you embrace shame. Even if you forget exactly what you’re ashamed of, you still feel the shame; and as long as you do, you forego self-esteem.

And according to Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, until you have met your need for self-esteem, you can’t move on to meet your need for self-actualization, or your need to live a rich and meaningful life. That’s why you — and so many making headlines — can become rich and powerful, and still feel unfulfilled.

So, tell me your secrets … spill your secrets, and you spill your shame, your guilt and your regret.

Well-meaning people may suggest you keep a secret for fear somebody uses it against you. Better them, than you, though. When you keep a secret, you are certain to use it against yourself.

In letting go of a secret, you also let go of the belief that there is something to hide. When you expose it, what used to seem dark and dirty seems human. You relieve the pressure, come out of the closet into the light, purge the pain with tears.… More

Life has never felt so real to me. I don’t know how much sense that can make to somebody else, but it makes sense to me; because love is the only thing that’s real. And so much of what I based my life on over the years was less than loving.

I wasn’t a “bad” person. I was more goodie-two-shoes than bad. But goodie-two-shoes was closer to self-righteous than I realized. And I worked hard for picture-perfect, the house with pretty wallpaper, the muscled boyfriend, the red Mercedes. Nothing was enough.

There isn’t enough of anything else to fill our need for love. I realized this 30 years ago, before I wrote the little book “The Person I Don’t Have Time to Be … Is the Person I Am.”

Although I wore designer clothes and had them tailored to fit, I didn’t feel like that person. Well, maybe I did … how was I to know that people who looked like they had it all together could feel like scared little girls!? It was like that cliche, “If the club will accept me, how good can it be?”

In recent years, though, it dawns on me that everything in my life seems more real … and it’s not because THINGS are better or worse.… More