You anxiously open an e-mail from a friend you haven’t heard from since she got married six months ago. It pokes fun at men … and contradicts all that giggling praise you heard about her “shining star.”
Why do we shift our focus from what we’re grateful for to what irritates us? Often we’re complaining about such petty things as toilet seats and toothpaste caps!
Once we get what we want โ the shining star โ we want more. He begins to seem ordinary, not because he has changed, but because he hasn’t. We decide he should twinkle from more angles or change colors now and then.
You have to decide if you want to keep trying to satisfy your insatiable ego or satisfy your heart.
Keep in mind that what you don’t appreciate has a way of slipping through your fingers. Remember the skin you didn’t take care of, the opportunities you took for granted, or the friend you thought would always be there? They’re gone.
“Women complain, men leave,” says Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., author of “Your Man Is Wonderful.”
If you’re thinking that nothing could drive your man away, you might ask yourself if he’s still there emotionally.… More