Love has no agenda …

… More

Passion — or erotic attraction — enlivens us. The singing birds drown out the alarm clock. The sun shines through the clouds. We are the sun, and the moon and the stars!

Passion seems too good to be true. And it is…well, not really; it just can’t stand alone very long.

In discussing passion’s role as one of the three parts of perfect love — the other two parts being intimacy and commitment — I promised to tell you how to feed passion with intimacy. It’s an epic task, but with equally epic rewards.

We can’t hold on to passion without intimacy, because by itself passion starts to feel empty. It doesn’t stand up in the face of life’s challenges. When illness strikes or a job loss threatens the roof over our heads, passion doesn’t seem nearly as important as it did when we were craving physical gratification.

The problem is when we add intimacy to give passion a foundation, passion eventually seems to fizzle out. Truth is — it’s tough to hold on to passion, with or without intimacy!

Passion is fueled by mystery. And intimacy means getting to know all about each other, understanding fears and dreams, seeing and hearing and smelling and tasting what makes us human.… More

We can’t embrace what we long for until we stop clinging to what gives us a false sense of security. But often we cling unconsciously to what we used to cope.

We’re still holding on to a security blanket that we needed as a child. It no longer serves us. And we can let go, but only after we have identified it consciously. … More

As much as we long to be seen and known, we may shrink from our truth or avoid sharing it for fear of rejection. But we can always trust the truth, and naked is as good as we get.… More

… More