Love has no agenda …

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You CAN get what you want in life. And part of that is learning to align your desires, your intentions, and your beliefs.

When we have a desire, we want something. When we have an intention, we intend to have what we want. And when we intend to have it, we live life as though we will have it.

If we only want something, we may intend to go on wanting it indefinitely. We may go through the motions of doing something about our desire only to relieve our sense of obligation to do something, with no real intention of ever satisfying our desire.

If we want something and we don’t intend to have it, chances are we have conflicting desires or limiting beliefs.

Maybe you want to lose ten pounds and you also want to continue to eat as much as you’re eating now. Hmmm … looking honestly at both of your desires allows you to see an option you may have missed. And the option to burn more calories — rather than eat fewer calories — may spur an intention.

Maybe you want to get along with your sweetheart and you also want to make him see how wrong he is.… More

Love is an attitude of the heart. It is the force for good, a science to study, an art to practice, a magic to embrace and trust. It is what you always knew but almost lost sight of.

It is who you are, the divine spark within. It is all you need.

And everything you could possibly want is a byproduct of finding and being love, finding and being your authentic self.… More

One of my favorite things is floating in the pool. I can hit the water and, with nothing nagging for my attention, just be.

When we are present, without any distractions, we open a space to see and to listen. And looking up at the heavens as I wafted in the pool, it occurred to me that, “God is the majesty beyond the screen.”

God is not the screen, the suffering, the chaos. God is not the virus.

God is the clarity, the peace, the health, the order that helps us to identify fear, the only thing that can obscure love. God is everything good, the backdrop, against which, fear is contrasted.

God is the majesty beyond the fear.… More

You’ve never seen him (or her) before — the guy across the room smiling at you. And he’s hot, not because he has a chiseled jaw or even a full head of hair, but because he’s unabashedly looking at what he likes. You! Now what?

If you’re not in a relationship, you can’t wait to find out! If you are in a relationship, this is a test. How strong is your commitment, the thing that keeps you faithful?

You are likely to stay committed as long as you think you can get more of what you want where you are than you could get elsewhere; and you’re likely to break your commitment if you decide you can get more of what you want some place else. So, what do you want? Chances are, neither a chiseled jaw nor hot sex is at the top of your list. Knowing what IS on your list — as well as his — can keep you both satisfied, rather than feeling stuck. It’s not just a matter of staying or knowing that you will; it’s a matter of knowing that you want to.

You don’t commit once and for all; you are continually choosing.

And commitment is a two-edged sword.… More

Sometimes we really believe that we’re striving for a loving relationship, when actually, we’re trying to get somebody else to conform to OUR IDEA of a loving relationship! We can’t do their striving, or their growing. We can’t decide what they’re ready for. We can’t even decide what a loving relationship looks like for them!

It’s wonderful to persevere in aligning with love and creating a relationship that reflects YOU. Live your dream! But don’t do the dreaming for somebody else … and then try to get them to work at living it. Let go of your notion of what’s right for somebody else.

And continue to revisit what’s right for you. If you have to push too hard or cling too tightly, maybe it’s not for you. Love is work! It’s responsible and persistent work; but it feels like being true to yourself, not trying to squeeze into a pair of jeans, a party, or a relationship that doesn’t fit.

Not sure if you’re truly loving your partner or pushing YOUR idea of a loving relationship? You can’t be responsible for how your partner feels, but how he feels can be telling. Does she feel respected OR disrespected by you?… More