Love has no agenda …

May we let go of what no longer serves us to make room for what does serve us. We can’t choose both.… More

It’s true that we can get so consumed by a relationship that we don’t seem to have time for anything else. And we can get so caught up in pleasing a partner that we lose sight of our own needs and desires. We forget who we are.

BUT in a healthy relationship, both individuals have a safe place to probe deeper into who they are, to know and share more substance. They have a safe place to be vulnerable, to face their fears, to overcome their fears, and grow into a purer, fuller version of their authentic self.

And in doing so, they purify their love for each other. They keep their interaction alive and dynamic.… More

The quality of your behavior isn’t determined by how somebody else responds to it. Nothing feels as good as the freedom to be YOU.… More

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Too much of a monotonous task, especially with no reward in sight, can understandably bore you; but when boredom follows you from the laundry room to the office to the bedroom, don’t ignore it.

If you’re often bored, scientists say you’re at greater risk of developing anxiety, depression, drug addiction, angry and aggressive behavior, a lack of interpersonal skills and poor performance!

And a recent study shows that boredom undermines satisfaction (read: happiness) in relationships, which can make grass on the other side of the fence appear greener than it actually is and ultimately weaken your commitment. The seven-year itch is no coincidence or myth.

If your boredom is based on droning circumstances, you can change them by doing something that enlivens you. If routine is sabotaging your relationship, you can grab your sweetheart and do something that engages both of you. And don’t wait … because the longer you’re bored with circumstances, the more likely you are to get bored with life in general.

So, what if you’ve already crossed that line? Look at when you became disinterested and why. Look at the desires you have repressed and the goals you have given up.

When you’ve lost touch with what rouses your passion, you can find yourself indifferent, with no sense of direction or purpose.… More

I admit it! I love being swept off my feet. It takes two, though. I have to participate. I have to position myself, get consent, and take the leap. That means making myself vulnerable (what if he says no). It means trusting myself to jump high enough. Sam’s a foot taller than I am. And it means trusting Sam to catch me.

I’m not saying there aren’t other ways to do it. But relationships are always two-sided.… More