Love has no agenda …

Sometimes we’re looking for other people to give us something that we haven’t given ourselves. We want them to think we deserve something that we know we don’t. It’s not that we’re unworthy. We are absolutely worthy … but that doesn’t mean we’re living up to our worth.… More

We can only hope to revel in a satisfying partnership if we actually partner. That means staying on the same side.

No, you don’t have to agree or see everything the same way. But you have to respect the differences, discuss them … and find a way to be better together because of them.… More

Years ago, while I was dating a psychiatrist, he told me that I was too often disappointed with him. I was goo-gah over his brain, and he melted me — and everybody else — when he smiled. He saw through people and felt warm toward them; and they knew it. Disappointed in him? Not this girl.

Bless my insecure little 30-year-old heart, though, I acted like I was. Because I felt inferior, I tried not to act intimidated or overly impressed. I was bold in expressing my insight into his issues; he was receptive — not defensive.

When he told me that our issues were clashing, I thought it was mostly about my not feeding his ego. I thought that was a good thing. Without realizing it, though, I continued to feed my own ego and want him to feed it.

Truth is, I wanted desperately to feel good enough for him!

Now I realize that he probably saw through my defensiveness, and understood his own need for reinforcement. He still wanted somebody who was impressed by him. I was — the condo, the car, the Yale degree — but I was unable to express that freely. I was too self-conscious about what I saw as my own shortcomings to ignore what I saw as his shortcomings and underscore his long list of strengths.… More

We get stuck thinking that the right partner, or education, or job paves the way to happy. But the only way to be happy is to align with love. And authentic love is written on our hearts.

We can tune into that love. We can follow it. And when we do, we will find the right everything. But our happiness will never depend on anything but love. … More

You are love. But you are also gifted with choice. And when you choose fear, instead of love, you no longer feel like love. You no longer manifest love.

To manifest the greatness of love, you must be true to you. You must do what love would do.

Love is unthreatened. It has nothing to fear.… More

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