Love has no agenda …

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Writing a relationships column every week for ten years, it became very clear to me that all of our other relationships reflect the relationship we have with ourselves.

The bottom line was always the same: Somebody else will love you the way you’ve always wanted to be loved, when you do. … More

You don’t have to wonder what your purpose is. You are a vessel for love, ordained by the very breath of God, the source of all love.

Follow what allows you to breathe more deeply, more fully, more completely. Be present. Do what enlivens you. Sit with what refreshes and restores you.

You need not worry about WHAT you do; be aware of HOW you do it. Are you motivated by love or fear (greed, anger, vengeance, jealousy)?

And if you would help another to breathe, teach by example; you cannot breathe for him. You can love him as he is. That is your gift to give. … More

Our relationships aren’t really about external circumstances. They’re about how we relate to each other. We want to be heard and understood. We want to be loved. When we are, we can handle the rest.

And even when a partner isn’t there for you, you can be there for you.… More

We can’t protect ourselves from pain and rejection without also protecting ourselves from love and connection.

Love is fearless. … More

Men — and even women — have struggled for centuries to figure out what women want. At times (yes, it’s cyclical), it seems there is no pleasing them with anything.

I could tell you what women want, but it occurs to me that it’s easier to tell you what they don’t want.

Women don’t want a fraidy cat. And the rest is up for grabs — it depends on the woman and her preferences. I know … that’s an unsophisticated response to Freud’s: “Despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, I have not been able to answer … the great question that has never been answered: What does a woman want?”

Stay with me, though. If a man’s not afraid, he’s not intimidated by a woman’s intelligence. He appreciates her intuition. He’s not threatened by her emotions, however cyclical; and he’s not embarrassed by his own. He’s strong and vulnerable. He’s true to himself … and that means, according to Shakespeare, he’s true to her.

I could probably rest my case now, but I have another 450 words.

You’ve probably heard how not being afraid of rejection works when you’re selling life insurance. There’s an old story about a man who was offered one dollar for every “no” he got.… More