Love has no agenda …

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If you want to impress people, give them an expensive gift. If you want to demonstrate thoughtfulness, give them something creative. If you want to win their allegiance, give them an invitation they couldn’t get. If you truly want to love them, show them how incredibly lovable they are. … More

The media hosts an ongoing parade of beautiful people. They even offer commentary on the most beautiful eyes, lips and buttocks, helping us to embrace both a false sense of normal and a false sense of ideal.

There is no ideal. And there certainly is no ideal for everybody — 5’10” cannot be ideal for a woman who is 5’4″. I know this!

Yet studies show that the vast majority of women are uncomfortable with their looks, particularly their bodies. But women are giving men — who live longer, stay more active and marry women half their age (I’m funny, not bitter, really) — a taste of how it feels to be gawked at, reveled in and critiqued.

Still, women are more apt to be trapped in their innate desire to please men (the creation story in Genesis nails this). Measuring up to the ideal they think men want weighs on them, the way being strong and powerful weighs on many men.

Think about it, though. The average man is less than 5 feet 10 inches tall. Do you really think he prefers a 5-foot 10-inch woman to make him feel big and strong? There is no ideal match, either. I think God made my husband, Sam, 6 feet 3 inches tall to remove any doubt in my mind.… More

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Sometimes we think we should have been able to do it better, faster, or easier. But one step at a time was always going to be the only way to get there. We were always going to have to start from where we were.

And it was always going to be the journey of a lifetime. … More

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