Love has no agenda …

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If we want peace, we must trust love.

Love is brilliant, exacting, responsible, diligent. Love counts the cost, but has no fear of the consequences. It has no agenda and no political ties. It is unwavering, fearless, unifying, compassionate, and healing.

But love can’t be handed out. It can’t be put on or feigned. Love has to start within you and within me. We have to trust love enough to let go of our fear. Then, love can come from the inside out. And it can ignite the love in others.

It’s simple. It’s not easy. Many would rather take a pill, donate some money, or blame somebody else, somebody in a position of authority. But nobody has the authority to dictate love. Each one of us is given the privilege and the responsibility of choice.

We don’t have to play a big part, just our part. But we can trust that to be enough.… More

According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, self-actualization is at the top. And well, sex is right at the bottom–a basic, perhaps over-rated, physiological need–along with air, food, water, and sleep.

But at its best, sex is a means of baring your body, mind, and sprit and meeting somebody at the top of Maslow’s mountain. It is a means of making everything that may get in the way disappear while you fulfill, in one simple act, your self-actualization needs. It may last only for a moment; still it is a moment that you can hold on to.

Excerpt from my first book “Naked Relationships … sharing your authentic self to find the partner of your dreams”… More

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Summer demands that we bare all those body parts we’ve conveniently layered in sweaters. And if you’re feeling squeamish about that, you’re trying to protect more than just your abs and your thighs from rejection.

When you accept the rest of you, you also accept your physical body. You embrace who you are inside and out, regardless of other people’s opinions. Stay with me, though, I’m not just talking about the unconditional acceptance that gets so much hype.

Let’s think in terms of loving yourself. What does that really look like? Accepting yourself unconditionally is only one segment of it. You want to know, respect, and care for all of you.

You can’t, for example, merely accept your complacency or “white” lies or defensiveness and expect to also feel good about yourself. Self-esteem comes from being true to you, or aligning your behavior with your values, from doing what you know to do to the best of your ability.

And when you’ve done that, you’ve spent enough time in solitude to know what you really believe and what you can do with your whole heart. You’ve come to understand the pain behind your anger, the insecurity behind your defensiveness, and the fear that keeps you from doing what you most want to do.… More