Love has no agenda …

I’ve discovered that what we most want can’t be forced. We don’t snag it by working harder or smarter. We don’t extend our reach by connecting with the right person. It’s not about money– no matter how much we try to make it about money. There is nobody to blame. And there is no valid excuse for not having what we want.

And, we don’t have everything we want right now. We will always be discovering more of our boundless capacity for greatness.

But here, now, we can realize that it is ALL ours in love. We can feel the truth and the enormity of our essence. We can get our arms and our barely-tapped-into brains around the reality that we are love. And everything we could possibly want, everything that serves us, is part of love. We have access to the collective resources.

When we truly get this, we also get that we have an awful lot to look forward to. We are just beginning to fathom the universe, the power of our intentions, and the realms of time and space that we’ve created.

So, how do we claim “more” of what is already ours? Simply be being fearless. Fear is the only restraint we have.… More

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Question from a friend:

“When is it cheating in a marriage? If you had lunch with David and David wanted to kiss you, would that be all right? If you kissed David passionately, would you tell Sam?”

You might know me well enough to anticipate my answer. Surely my friend does, too.

Passionately kissing David—or anybody—would be cheating. And I would tell Sam. In fact, I did tell Sam when David tried to kiss me. Was it all right? Yes, in the sense that I’m only responsible for how I respond, but I don’t think it would have been okay to avoid telling Sam. Open feels much more honest and loving to me.

A strict definition of cheating: Sharing less than all of you.

A looser definition: Betraying a commitment.

That said, commitment is an ongoing decision, whether it’s made consciously or unconsciously. And being honest about what you’re feeling today is even more important to a healthy relationship than keeping a commitment you made yesterday.

When you share less than all of you, it’s because you accept less than all of you. And that’s cheating … yourself and your partner.

All of you is better, so much better, than isolated pieces of you.… More

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