Love has no agenda …

“How could he … he said he loved me,” she eked out between sobs.

Do you feel more empathy for the guy who changed his mind, or the girl left trying to reconcile the guy’s words with his actions?

Male or female, you’ve probably been smitten and thought you were in love, only to decide it could never work. Our emotions — which we expect to waver — prioritize different thoughts at different times, sometimes dragging our intellects on an emotional roller coaster.

There’s more to it than that, though. There’s what you mean by “I love you,” and what somebody else thinks you mean.

There are eight types of love, according to Robert J. Sternberg, noted psychologist and Professor of Human Development at Cornell University. Only one of them is perfect, but they’re all formed by the following three dimensions of love:

Intimacy: Psychological knowledge of each other and connection based on that knowledge


Passion: Erotic attraction


Commitment: The decision that a person loves another person and the commitment to maintain that love

The classic misunderstanding immediately jumps out at us: He gets caught up in erotic attraction and says, “I love you.” She thinks somebody finally understands her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her.… More

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All or our other relationships reflect the relationship we have with ourself. And there is no path to happiness that bypasses that relationship.… More

It’s a brave new day to rise above indoctrination and act on what we believe. … More

YOU are a masterpiece, an exquisite work of art, an amazing feat of science, gifted with conscious choice, magic, mystery, and LOVE!

And there’s nothing you can do, no place you can go to void the love that is yours, the love that is you.

You may look for it in the wrong places, or even turn your nose up at it. But it will always be there.

And it will always welcome you home! … More