Love has no agenda …

A mistake is an opportunity to show both your humanness and your divinity. You demonstrate your humanness by making a mistake. And you demonstrate your divinity by honestly acknowledging a mistake, without feeling defined by it.… More

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I get stuck when I think I’m at the mercy of somebody else. I get stuck when I can’t see and forgive my choices. I get stuck when I’m afraid I can’t do it, when I’m afraid I’m not enough.

But I AM enough–not because I messed up and landed here. I am enough because I’ve accepted responsibility for landing here and learned from it. I am enough because I know my situation can’t define me. I am enough because I’m ready to choose again.

I am enough because I am love. … More

Dear Friends,

When this box arrived, I said to myself, “What did my baby boy order now?” It was addressed to me (Amazon Prime is in my name), but it looked more like an airplane part than a book.

Ah, but it was for me. I now have my very own bolster pillow for massage, one of my favorite gifts to give myself.

Our only job is to love well. And we can’t love others any better than we love ourself. So what does loving yourself look like? What gifts do you want? For me it looks like long walks, a gorgeous view, dessert, and nothing on my calendar except what I can do with my whole heart.

One of the most momentous gifts you can give yourself is the freedom to be you! Life is miserable pretending to be somebody else. It’s a real live fairytale being you!

Happiness doesn’t come with somebody else’s approval, or the right degree, or any level of income. It comes with knowing and being who you are … without them.

Love yourself for who you are, and you can love others for who they are!

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Passion — or erotic attraction — enlivens us. The singing birds drown out the alarm clock. The sun shines through the clouds. We are the sun, and the moon and the stars!

Passion seems too good to be true. And it is…well, not really; it just can’t stand alone very long.

We can’t hold on to passion without intimacy, because by itself passion starts to feel empty. It doesn’t stand up in the face of life’s challenges. When illness strikes or a job loss threatens the roof over our heads, passion doesn’t seem nearly as important as it did when we were craving physical gratification.

The problem is when we add intimacy to give passion a foundation, passion eventually seems to fizzle out. Truth is — it’s tough to hold on to passion, with or without intimacy!

Passion is fueled by mystery. And intimacy means getting to know all about each other, understanding fears and dreams, seeing and hearing and smelling and tasting what makes us human. Daily life can ride roughshod over intrigue…and, yes, passion.

Of course, we can just forego passion. But then we no longer have perfect love…and what we do have can be threatened by the lure of passion.… More