Love has no agenda …

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“Relationships don’t work when people get hooked up with opposites, instead of partners with similar traits who like what they like,” says one reader.

Not bad … but it’s not quite that simple.

“Similar” is most apt to work after two people have accepted who they are, and are no longer trying to get somebody else to give them what they “lack.” Opposites sometimes attract each other to compensate for what they think they’re missing.

If, for example, you long to be comfortable socializing, you might be attracted to somebody who’s outgoing and well connected in the community. And although, as an introvert, you could be intrigued by a socialite for a while, novelty is generally short lived. While an extrovert is fueled by the crowd, an introvert is drained by it — even when enjoying it — and might want more space to catch his (or her) breath than he can find with an extrovert.

This is a perfect example of how two people can get enthralled with each other — briefly. Infatuation rarely survives for more than a year.

On the other hand, if you’ve learned that you can mingle with a crowd of strangers, and still prefer to spend your time with intimate friends, you just might accept yourself as-is.… More

You’re probably familiar with the cliche, “People will remember how you made them feel, long after they forget what you said. I’ve found that to be true.

And here’s what I’m thinking this morning … I will remember how I felt today long after I forget what I did today.

Let’s choose to feel the way we want most to feel. Let’s think what we can think in good conscience. Let’s do what we can do whole-heartedly. Let’s spend our time on what’s worth revisiting at the end of the day.

Let’s do, right now, the one thing that we want most to do today. Let’s focus on our first priority this week, this month, this year.

Let’s NOT get distracted by what’s happening all around us. Let’s not merely react to what other people are doing.

It’s a brave new year. I want to hold on to the reins of my life–not with my head, but with my heart; not in the spirit of control, but in the spirit of love.

And if I can do that, I will FEEL engaged, satisfied, fully alive, happy, and free. I will feel like ME. And that means feeling at peace.

Let’s feel what we want to feel!… More

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