Love has no agenda …

Dear Friends …

I was reminded–again–that when I give something, it’s no longer missing.

I had been trying for months to resolve a payment issue. When I finally received a call back from somebody who seemed to actually care, I said, “Let me take a deep breath.” And then I patiently relayed the story from my perspective.

After all the people I’d talked to and all the blatant lack of follow-up, I was talking to an intelligent, sensible, caring human being.

I didn’t need a particular result. It wasn’t just about my problem. I was raising a poignant example of a huge issue.

And when I was heard, I felt so blessed, melting into faith in the human spirit. And then I realized that when I took the time to take a deep breath, start at the beginning, and explain my perspective, with no agenda and no expectations, I was met with that same loving spirit.

Likewise, when I talked to one person, and then another, who had their own agenda, I did, too. That’s what it took for me to let go of the immediate result that I wanted.

No, I’m not a horrible person. And, no, I’m not giving up on being a good one.… More

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Tune in for mutual satisfaction …

When initiating physical intimacy, tune into your sweetheart. Meet at a place you can both be. Start from there. And set the pace together.

Groping and pouncing is grand, but only if you’re both participating. … More

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Learn from Sex, Apply to Life

If you love your partner and want to have sex more often, chances are you feel like something is missing in your relationship.

Part of the solution is finding time for sex. You read the headlines while you put cream in your coffee. You manage to get dinner delivered by pushing two buttons on your phone. And you’ve found a drive-through wash and wax en route from the office. But, you haven’t figured out how to fit sex into your routine.

Maybe you don’t want sex to be routine!

It’s not just a lack of time or planning; it’s a lack of motivation. You up the ante, and the motivation, when you realize that sex is a chance to identify and add what’s missing in your relationship. Going for it is still a challenge, though … one that’s easier to meet with practice, which can require some discipline. You have to make it a priority.

It was easier when you were infatuated and devoting every waking moment to each other. When “real life” kicks in, things inevitably get in the way. One’s late, the other one’s tired, the kids ARE, life is full.

Start where you are, and use what you have.… More