Love has no agenda …

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We can’t isolate the health of our body. It’s attached to what we think and feel. Our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health act to strengthen and weaken each other.

Remember when you found out he was cheating on you, and cozied up on the sofa for three days with a box of chocolates? Now, try to remember why you did that. It wasn’t really because he cheated. It was because you started to think YOU were the reason he cheated!

That thought was enough to make you feel despondent. In that moment, you wanted to escape the emotional pain more than you wanted to take care of your body … and binging on chocolate when you were already beating yourself up for being so fat that he cheated on you was enough to condemn your sinful soul. All this because he’s still learning to make a distinction between a biological urge and love … and you thought it was a negative reflection on you?

Our health starts with our thinking.

I’m not going to suggest that you try to think positive thoughts all the time. Start by being aware of what you think and what it does to you. Then, write about it.… More

It was Christmas Eve. And he had a glass of wine to “take the edge off.” Then, he had another, without realizing that he was drinking on an empty stomach. I didn’t like what I saw. Did I like him better when he was more guarded, and less real?

It was a couple days before the truth struck me like, “You knew that.” The wine didn’t free his true self. It freed his ego. No wonder I found it unappealing. I didn’t like his ego anymore than I liked mine. But, I still liked him. I still loved HIM.

A story came back to me.It was about 25 years ago when I decided to give drinking a try. I had abstained all my life, on the principle that I wanted to be free without relying on alcohol to loosen me up. So, in the spirit of fairness, I drank enough to get tipsy a few times. I found that it gave me a permission slip, or an excuse, to indulge my ego and show off in public. Fun. But I don’t want to be fun at the expense of my integrity. No judgment here, but I know myself; and I betrayed my truth.… More