Love has no agenda …

We quit thinking, “If he/she would love me, then I’d know I was okay.” We know we are lovable, and it doesn’t matter if anybody else does.… More

And I can love him the way I’ve always wanted to love somebody, the way he’s always wanted to be loved.… More

Men — and even women — have struggled for centuries to figure out what women want. At times (yes, it’s cyclical), it seems there is no pleasing them with anything.

I could tell you what women want, but it occurs to me that it’s easier to tell you what they don’t want.

Women don’t want a fraidy cat. And the rest is up for grabs — it depends on the woman and her preferences. I know … that’s an unsophisticated response to Freud’s: “Despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, I have not been able to answer … the great question that has never been answered: What does a woman want?”

Stay with me, though. If a man’s not afraid, he’s not intimidated by a woman’s intelligence. He appreciates her intuition. He’s not threatened by her emotions, however cyclical; and he’s not embarrassed by his own. He’s strong and vulnerable. He’s true to himself … and that means, according to Shakespeare, he’s true to her. I could rest my case now, but I have another 450 words.

You’ve probably heard how not being afraid of rejection works when you’re selling life insurance. There’s an old story about a man who was offered one dollar for every “no” he got.… More

When we realize that our deep longing for love and oneness cannot be satisfied with the physical, we are left to discover the truth of authentic love within us. … More

It was in the devastation of a second divorce (after waiting 16 years to try again), that I resolved to get relationships right. And the College of Relationships opened up to me. My boss presented me with a choice. I could adapt, and pretend to be somebody I wasn’t, or I could resign. And in one fearless moment, I seized the divine nudge to quit my corporate job and write. It took the editor at my local newspaper to pinpoint what I was writing about … Relationships.

I interviewed the best of the experts to launch a weekly column that got picked up by Creators Syndicate. Little did I know that relationships were as much science as art and spirit … and that we can’t love somebody else any better than we love ourself.

I am grateful that my life’s work is love!… More

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