Jan Denise – Page 917

Path to certainty …

To know the certainty of love, we have to step into uncertainty. That’s where oneness with God awaits us! … More

You Can’t Get Away From Love School!

Saturday in Venice … bike trails, beach, oysters, live music, and virgin strawberry daiquiris! All in Love School–it was a learning day! Love is patient and kind, even when it’s scorching hot on the trail, tired, and hungry. Oh, wait … love doesn’t get over-tired and over-hungry! Can it get sun stroke without realizing it?! It’s a brave new day to love well!! Always. … More

Trying to Decide?

When you face a relationship decision, choose to transcend the temporal and let go of what binds you to it. … More

Greatness is simply doing what you can with love!

It’s tough to do great things by setting out to do them … because almost before we get started we’re coming from ego rather than love. Besides, we have to manage small things to get the experience we need to manage bigger ones. And sometimes that leaves us shying away from doing much of anything!

But when we begin to do something, we are encouraged. Peace and joy lie in doing what we can — not what we wish we could do. And when we move away from our preconceived notion of what “great” looks like, we make way for what great really is. It’s nothing more than doing what we can with love.

We can build a castle without love … or we can sweep a dirt floor with love. But we can only be happy with love.
We forget — again and again, but never forever. And the more we practice, the longer we remember. … More

He loves me. He loves me not. You know the truth!

We’ve all felt the torment of, “He loves me, he loves me not.” Sometimes we get so caught up in that refrain that we fail to objectively consider our own feelings.

Your love and desire aren’t contingent on his (or hers). And it’s much easier to know what’s in your heart than it is to know what’s in somebody else’s.

Even when we’re torn from one moment to the next, the answer is there. Sometimes we’re asking the wrong person. Sometimes we just don’t want to see the answer that’s spelled out in front of us.

If you’re struggling to decide — to date or not to date, to break-up or not, to get married or not — try the following:

~ Ask YOURSELF the question. Don’t get sidetracked trying to second guess what somebody else thinks or wants, and don’t take the easy way out by making somebody else responsible for choosing. Remember that it takes two, though.

~ Ask what you WANT to do — not what you should do.

~ Ask how you would counsel a friend struggling to answer the question. This allows you to stand back and be objective.

~ Imagine living with the consequences of your choices and ask how at peace you feel with each choice.… More

Share Your Interests to Grow Understanding & Acceptance

When’s the last time you tried something HE (or she) likes to do? Oh, and when’s the last time you grumbled because HE was doing it by himself?

Behavioral intimacy, or how much you like to do together, is one measure of compatibility. And you don’t really know if you like to jog, or golf, or play poker if you haven’t given it a fair chance. Try on his interests and enjoy the aspects that you CAN appreciate. You’ll learn more about what speaks to him, pleases him, energizes him, and relaxes him. You’ll also understand him better, which grows more love and acceptance.

If you’re thinking, “Yeah right, like he’s going to take me jogging,” ask yourself why he wouldn’t. Maybe he assumes you’re not inclined to jog, because YOU have assumed you’re not. Why?

Then, think about what you would absolutely love to do and invite him to join you. If he declines, you can suggest an alternative, or do it without him. He might surprise you by accepting your invitation … and posing his own. If you want an invitation, don’t nag or complain; just give him one! Stay in touch with what nurtures you — physically, mentally, or spiritually — and share it.… More