The more you know yourself, the tougher it is to think (or pretend) that you are compatible with somebody else when you’re not! … More

Love — the only sure thing we have — is, in the context of romantic relationships, a gamble! I don’t think we can lose, though … if we are able to take the risk with the belief that there is no losing.

Without fear, there is only love. And love can’t lose.… More

QUESTION: She’s a good person, which is hard to find. And she’s ready, but I’m not sure she’s the one … and I don’t feel like I can afford another divorce. Do I risk everything?
When you commit to somebody — especially for better or worse, til death do you part — there’s an inherent risk. And it can feel as though you risk everything: Self-esteem, reputation, meaningful relationships, half of what’s left of your estate and even your last chance at happiness.
What do you really risk, though? The court doesn’t generally take what was already yours when you entered the marriage.
The real problem is that sometimes we’re looking to get from a relationship what we haven’t quite been able to get our arms around. So, it may feel as though we’re risking what we don’t truly have yet.
Marriage can offer you a partner in life, a trusted companion. If you’re looking for more than that — i.e., self-esteem, reputation, meaningful relationships, money or happiness — you’re barking up the wrong tree, but you’re not alone!
Those who enter a relationship thinking it will make them happy are disappointed, every time. But if you’re emotionally healthy going in, you’re likely to enjoy a healthy relationship … and remain healthy even if the relationship ends.… More