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The Paradise is Within …

I hope you have found paradise this summer. I hope you have found the place where everything is okay. It is within you.
And when you find it, your external world reflects its peace and beauty. It is perfect — not because it is ideal by anybody else’s standards, but because it is ideal by yours. It is ideal by yours because you see it through knowing eyes, and because you trust that you are getting exactly what you need. And because you are open to getting what you need from what’s there, you do.
It is like being on a vacation perfectly planned by your psychotherapist, your mentor, and your personal trainer. You trust them to serve your highest good. You are able to feel the sweetness in tears; you sit with your feelings beside the water. You are able to see the growth in sore muscles; you relax into a full-body massage in the garden. You are refreshed.
Your spirit sings. Your lips invite kisses. Your heart and your mind are open. You are present to delight in what is, without worrying about what is not.
If you haven’t found your paradise this summer, you can. It’s not going anywhere!… More

Path to certainty …

To know the certainty of love, we have to step into uncertainty. That’s where oneness with God awaits us! … More

You Can’t Get Away From Love School!

Saturday in Venice … bike trails, beach, oysters, live music, and virgin strawberry daiquiris! All in Love School–it was a learning day! Love is patient and kind, even when it’s scorching hot on the trail, tired, and hungry. Oh, wait … love doesn’t get over-tired and over-hungry! Can it get sun stroke without realizing it?! It’s a brave new day to love well!! Always. … More

Trying to Decide?

When you face a relationship decision, choose to transcend the temporal and let go of what binds you to it. … More

Greatness is simply doing what you can with love!

It’s tough to do great things by setting out to do them … because almost before we get started we’re coming from ego rather than love. Besides, we have to manage small things to get the experience we need to manage bigger ones. And sometimes that leaves us shying away from doing much of anything!

But when we begin to do something, we are encouraged. Peace and joy lie in doing what we can — not what we wish we could do. And when we move away from our preconceived notion of what “great” looks like, we make way for what great really is. It’s nothing more than doing what we can with love.

We can build a castle without love … or we can sweep a dirt floor with love. But we can only be happy with love.
We forget — again and again, but never forever. And the more we practice, the longer we remember. … More

He loves me. He loves me not. You know the truth!

We’ve all felt the torment of, “He loves me, he loves me not.” Sometimes we get so caught up in that refrain that we fail to objectively consider our own feelings.

Your love and desire aren’t contingent on his (or hers). And it’s much easier to know what’s in your heart than it is to know what’s in somebody else’s.

Even when we’re torn from one moment to the next, the answer is there. Sometimes we’re asking the wrong person. Sometimes we just don’t want to see the answer that’s spelled out in front of us.

If you’re struggling to decide — to date or not to date, to break-up or not, to get married or not — try the following:

~ Ask YOURSELF the question. Don’t get sidetracked trying to second guess what somebody else thinks or wants, and don’t take the easy way out by making somebody else responsible for choosing. Remember that it takes two, though.

~ Ask what you WANT to do — not what you should do.

~ Ask how you would counsel a friend struggling to answer the question. This allows you to stand back and be objective.

~ Imagine living with the consequences of your choices and ask how at peace you feel with each choice.… More