We can’t make anybody else happy; but we can love them for who they are inside. And if when we do that, they look to see what we find lovable, they will find themselves.

Voila! Happiness! We can’t force it; but we can point to it.… More

When my partner says or does something that triggers my wound, it is an opportunity for me to heal the wound.

I don’t heal the wound by rationalizing it, or band aiding it. I must dig into the wound, allowing light to shine on what was dark. I must understand what caused the wound, and forgive what caused it. I must know and accept the wound as part of me, not as something that defines me or limits me, but as something that propels me to know a richer and more meaningful life.

Then, if the wound is triggered again, it is because I shared more of myself, and let somebody closer. I can, with appreciation for the process, dig deeper and heal another layer of woundedness. And I can do it as long as I live, as long as I am willing to grow. … More

When two people are happy together, it’s mostly because they are also happy alone. If you want to know if you can be happy with somebody, look to see if you can be happy alone, look to see if he/she can be happy alone. Then, get to know each other really well. That makes loving each other easier; and it helps you determine compatibility. … More