Jan Denise – Page 848

Where is your relationship headed?

If you don’t want to go out for Valentine’s Day, you can stay home; but if you don’t want to go anyplace in your relationship, you can’t just stay put. You will move to a lower place, a hell of sorts.

Life doesn’t stand still; it either grows or dies. The same is true for your relationship. If you are not moving closer as partners, you are moving apart. There is no pause button.

So, where do you want to go in your relationship?

Here’s the map to heaven. Heaven or hell, you choose!

You are within a few steps of peace, or oneness, with yourself and your partner (plus the planet); and that is heaven. If peace seems to elude you, it is because you are stuck enroute. When you see where you are, you can navigate in the right direction; and when you see how close you are to peace, you will want to press on.

Five Steps to Peace

1. P-retending to Be What You Are Not
2. E-goic Striving
3. A-dmitting Dissonance and Confusion
4. C-oming Clean
5. E-xperiencing Ecstasy and Oneness

1. Pretending to Be What You Are Not: Fear and your survival instinct kicked in when Mommy and Daddy wanted you to be something you weren’t naturally–even if it was just quiet–and the charade to win approval began.… More

Until we’re living it, we’re still learning it …

My aim is not to gather more knowledge, but rather to know on a deeper level that which is worth knowing. It is what we know in our minds that we also know in our souls that allows us to manifest the magnificence of love. And sometimes there is a gap between the mind and the soul that must relearn the truth.… More

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Love without resistance …

Sam and I drove over to Cedar Key on Saturday. The first stop was for Tony’s chowder and fried shrimp! Then we checked out the water and the fishing, walking around enough to sit down and indulge in a chocolate brownie with salty caramel and white chocolate! My baby was ready to head home. I was ready to sit quietly by the water. I conceded, without resistance.

Next thing I know, Sam’s doing a U-turn to look at something he forgot about. And as we follow the airstrip (planes are one of his passions), I spy an out-of-the-way place to be still with the water. Sam realizes he needs a nap. And we both know it’s perfect.

As Sam reclines his seat and I exit the car, he points to an eagle flying overhead … and we know all is right with our little world.

Unlike the ego, love allows things to happen, rather than trying to make them happen.

Photo: my place to sit quietly with the water… More

Don’t miss out on perfect …

If you avoid getting defensive when things don’t go “your” way, you might just see a “better” way!… More

How truly can you love a partner?

When we try to love a partner before we learn to love ourselves, whether we realize it or not, we’re trying to get the love we want in return. We’re not loving them unconditionally; we’re not truly loving them.… More