Why didn’t somebody tell us how amazing we were–before life kicked us in the pants, and we learned to be on guard? Somebody probably did. But, chances are, somebody also told us in a million little ways that we were too little, too big, too loud, too shy, too something. And that’s the part we believed. We have to hear something positive five times in order to compensate for one negative! So, I just want to tell you about a billion times today that I think you’re absolutelly amazing in about a million different ways. And you are! … More
YOU …
If you find yourself working to be the right one for the right one, consider just being you. Not a lazy you, or a complacent you. The you before you got scared that you weren’t good enough. The you before you hid some parts and stifled your spirit, trying to win approval. The you when you still believed—or knew—you could do anything. The most beautiful, naked you. That YOU! … More
We can start now …
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Giving …
When there’s something we want from a partner that we’re not getting, all we have to do is give it. … More
Being more of who we are …
Once we realize that we’re clinging to a security blanket, we may want to loosen our grip and make room for something that can do more than pacify us. Because the security blanket is a substitute for the attunement we lost when we realized our separateness from “Mother.” It’s what we could latch on to as we faced fear and the pain of rejection.
What we really want is for somebody to tune into us–every sigh, and giggle, and cry. We want somebody to see us, and know us, and love us for who we are. We can’t go back and get that from “Mother” again, but we can give it to ourselves. And we can give ourselves permission to be ALL of who we are!
OR we can hold on to the blanket–compliant, smart, pretty, nurturing, stoic, or escape (food, drugs, busyness, adventure, even pain)! I’m loosening my grip on order. That was my blanket; and I stretched it into a suit of armor, reinforcing it for decades. I’m making room for the rest of me. Maybe I’ll have the chaos of success, more spontaneity, and some free falls.… More
Are you holding on to a security blanket?
You can observe babies looking around to make sure “Mom” is still there. Mom’s the security blanket. What’s yours? Do you look in the mirror, feel for your wallet, take a nap, eat? What do you still use to cope? And are you hooked on it?… More
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