Just the way the truth sets us free, a lie keeps us stuck.

And you know that back and forth thing in relationships, when you can’t quite seem to make up your mind whether you love him or you hate him … you’re stuck between believing a lie and facing the truth!

Trust the truth to set you free!… More

Valentine’s Day: What a lovely reminder that we really do celebrate our love every day.

Sam told me early on that all he wanted was cookies and kisses (no gifts on holidays). The love is always there. To celebrate once a year is like trying to create the life you want once a year. Life is every day! Love is every day! … More

Sexual fantasies are like dreams. They don’t adhere to our self-imposed or societal guidelines for what’s acceptable.

Consequently, we might feel uncomfortable — or even guilty — about what arouses us. Do you listen to those who admonish you to keep to the straight and narrow? Or do you follow the school of thought that says fantasies make for healthier and more exciting relationships?

In any case, you can’t really control what arouses you; you can only avoid or deny it.

In a recent study, women reportedly fudged about what pictures most aroused them. The thing is, they were “wired” (like taking a polygraph test); and their physical symptoms revealed the truth that they apparently found embarrassing.

Assuming women shouldn’t have to feel guilty about what photos aroused them — they didn’t even conjure up the images, they simply looked at what a facilitator flashed in front of them — why should you have to feel guilty about what your body responds to?

More awareness of what is, however primal, can help us to make better informed choices. We don’t have to limit our consciousness to what slaps us in the face or that part of the dream we were dreaming when we awoke in a sweat.… More