It’s amazing what happens when we stop trying to feed our ego through relationships. We don’t have to be right. We work as a team, and let individual differences strengthen the team, rather than weaken it. We say fewer words trying to prove something or one-up each other. We drop the facade. We are more productive. We learn and grow. We are better students and better teachers.
We are more honest with ourselves and each other. We are more tolerant, compassionate, and forgiving. We are less anxious, less stressed, more self-assured, more clear, and more responsible.
We know peace and harmony, within and without. We are fearless. We are whole, because love is whole. … More

Our peace and joy survive everything but our own betrayal of love.… More

The candy dish is familiar — it’s always on the front desk and full of root beer barrels. Marie is the receptionist; her dad is dying, and he has been dying for a long time. He loves root beer barrels. Knowing this, his nurse brings him a bag every week, enough to share with his daughter. Her eyes sparkle wet tears as she explains.

Tradition comforts us and makes us feel grounded — regardless of what’s caving in around us. It represents caring. Whether it’s pizza on Friday nights or an annual celebration, it reminds us that somebody stands with us. We feel known and appreciated.

Celebrating a tradition with somebody says “I love you” or “you’re important to me” … with actions, rather than words. Those who know me well, join me in stretching my arms out to take a deep breath and re-present myself.

Traditions remind us to show up!

Granted, YOU can get lost in an elaborate tradition. If you keep it simple, you’re more apt to stay present and satisfy its purpose.

Let’s say it’s his birthday: If you eat dinner at your favorite neighborhood restaurant and surprise him with a gift on his pillow, honoring him is the main event.… More