No matter how horrible your secret, keeping it is more destructive than the secret itself; and sharing it will break its hold on you.

When you decide you have something to be ashamed of, you embrace shame. Even if you forget exactly what you’re ashamed of, you still feel the shame; and as long as you do, you forego self-esteem.

And according to Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, until you have met your need for self-esteem, you can’t move on to meet your need for self-actualization, or your need to live a rich and meaningful life. That’s why you — and so many making headlines — can become rich and powerful, and still feel unfulfilled.

So, tell me your secrets. Spill your secrets, and you spill your shame, your guilt and your regret.

Well-meaning people may suggest you keep a secret for fear somebody uses it against you. Better them, than you, though. When you keep a secret, you are certain to use it against yourself.

In letting go of a secret, you also let go of the belief that there is something to hide. When you expose it, what used to seem dark and dirty seems human. You relieve the pressure, come out of the closet into the light, purge the pain with tears.… More

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