Jan Denise – Page 287

Start today. And if you mess up, start again before tomorrow. You get to try again until you get it just right; you get to learn until you know it all. Then, I suppose you get to die happy, or live in nirvana, or be transported into the heavens.

Much of life is about starting over. It’s about falling down and learning from it, getting up and starting again. And if that doesn’t sound like fun to you, just watch a little baby do it. Better yet, let the baby wrap his tiny fingers around yours and help him manage his first steps. Look into his twinkling eyes and see if you don’t get a new perspective on resilience — joy in the stumbling and peace in the falling. There might be some cries and screams, but they won’t keep him down. With a little coaxing, I bet you can turn the cries into smiles and laughter, and find yourself gleeful.

Why not encourage yourself? Believe in yourself? Show kindness and understanding to yourself?

If you don’t do that, chances are you don’t feel like showing other adults kindness, either. But that’s just because you lost sight of the baby, or the goodness, in you and in them.… More

Dear Friends,

Sometimes we’re so stuck in an unhealthy relationship or so surrounded by them that we think that’s just how it is. But whether we stay or walk away, relationships are what we make them.

And they’re intended to be happy!

That means we’re intended to do relationships well. After my second divorce, I got a second wind and resolved to get it right. I started writing about relationships, and my local paper launched my weekly column. Creators Syndicate picked it up, allowing me to interview the leading experts. I did it with zeal, for ten years. And I’ve been writing and practicing ever since to bring the science, the art, and the spirit of love together.

Whether you’re in a relationship that falls short of your dreams, or you’re still looking for or waiting for “the one,” I invite you to join me in learning to do relationships well. It’s the work of a lifetime.

And if you have a question or want a guide, I’d take delight in helping you discover the real you and the relationship intended for YOU.

Love smiles, … More