Jan Denise – Page 28

Dear Friends: Order up the nudge …

I’ve exercised since I was 25. And it feels like both yesterday and a lifetime ago, when my boyfriend told me my thighs were dimpling. That was a wow I hadn’t noticed. It was also a nudge.

I have learned to pay more attention to my thighs and the rest of me. And I have smiled hundreds of smiles on remembering his observation. I have also kicked myself in the butt when necessary. But recently, at 66, I felt the need for a professional nudge; and I’m paying somebody to coach me.

We may be tempted to bypass a need we can’t seem to meet … or merely pay somebody else to meet it, thinking they can. Let’s trust help to be available. Let’s seek it out. And let’s allow every comment, kick in the butt, pat on the back, and paid-for nudge to reveal our best, from the inside out.

Love smiles on you,… More

Let’s not work to make ourselves better. Let’s work to live up to who we are.

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YOUR dance, YOUR bliss …

When it seems like we can’t dance … or get relationships right, or stick to an exercise plan, it’s because we haven’t tuned in to our own music. We haven’t felt OUR greatness. Start with that.

Tune in. Sit with you long enough to get to know you. And then, yield to what you feel. Let it lift you to your feet and a repertoire of moves you knew you had, but couldn’t quite materialize.

You can’t perform your best to somebody else’s music. You can’t deliver your goods while you’re lugging around excess baggage belonging to somebody who’s pretending to be you.

But you CAN tune in to your own divinity and manifest the kingdom within you. And that IS bliss. Your bliss.… More

Hormones can only trigger existing feelings …

From a reader: “Once a month she hates me, and I can’t do anything right. It’s like clock work, so it must be hormones. But sometimes I wonder if she’s always unhappy with the relationship … and the truth only comes out once a month.”

A wise man! Even hormonal shifts can only trigger existing feelings.

Christiane Northrup explains that PMS, SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and perimenopause simply uncover unconscious conflicts that are just waiting to be processed. The hormones are not the problem. They are, in fact, the solution! They, if we let them, direct our attention where it’s needed.

The problem is that we don’t take the time to work through the conflicts. We suppress them, instead, but they don’t go away. They come back kicking and screaming every month … during a cycle designed to keep us at peace.

During the first half of the menstrual cycle, women’s hormones support a focus on other people and things outside themselves. Then, from ovulation to the onset of a period (in women who aren’t pregnant), their focus turns inward … and they’re less apt to ignore conflict to keep the peace.

If you’re a woman, you know the feeling — you’ve had enough, you’ve given enough, and you want to scream out, “Hello, I’m a person, too!”… More