Sometimes our choices seem black and white. We can almost see a halo on one shoulder battling with horns on the other. But there are times when we’re sincerely trying to decide what’s “right” and what’s “wrong,” what’s loving and what’s not.

One way of getting clarity is to ask, “What do I WANT to do?” Oddly enough, that’s not an obvious question. We’ve spent a lifetime thinking about what we SHOULD do.

Love is wholehearted, though. It acts out of desire, not duty. And if that seems like a stretch to you, let me refer you to one of my all-time favorite books written by one of my all-time favorite, brilliant minds … “The Art of Loving” by Erich Fromm. Fromm explains that love responds out of desire, not obligation.

We are intended to align with our essence of love. And that means that doing so feels like self-verification. It feels good! Let’s revel in the feel-good of love. And let’s share that with others. Let’s show them a happy face, rather than a resentful one. Let’s show them what love looks like.

And let’s remember!

Love and smiles,… More

I love this. I love that as long as we’re alive, we get to keep growing into our wings, and that we learn to find more pleasure in it.… More

When we’re still looking for attention and appreciation from a partner (to feed our ego), we won’t find a partner to truly love us. Instead, we’ll find somebody who’s willing to feed our ego, but it won’t last; because the ego is insatiable.

We move beyond that by learning to truly love ourselves. Then, we no longer need somebody to feed our ego, that polished armor we use to fend off the fear that we’re not good enough. We can share all of who we are, without fear of rejection, and be loved down to the core, the way we’ve always longed to be loved. … More