We cannot really walk WITH somebody who is not there. But we can be very distracted by that somebody. We can choose to be present, instead. … More

Let’s choose to work at loving well. It’s job one! … More

When we are provoked, our partners and most humans seem unsatisfactory. We look for flaws or scapegoats. And we are surrounded. Anything different from the ideal we’ve conjured up can be an excuse to cringe or attack.

When we don’t want to resolve the differences, they can seem insurmountable. We’d rather be right than validate somebody else’s view or reach a compromise. As long as somebody else is wrong, we have an argument to stand on.

But when we open up to love, love moves the spotlight from our differences to our sameness. And our differences can seem insignificant … mostly because they are. When we’re open to a win-win, we can find one.

So, how do we avoid getting provoked? And how do we open up to resolution once we are provoked? We open up to love. We choose to feel love. We choose to feed love. And that can be as simple as closing our eyes and taking a deep breath with the intention of letting love replace fear.… More