Jan Denise – Page 184

Love is the only priority we need …

With love, we have enough. Without love, we can’t get enough; there isn’t enough. Everything good is a byproduct of authentic love. … More

Do LOVE …

Telling Question: Will I be glad I did this, regardless of the outcome. When we’re looking for reciprocation or a particular result, we’re apt to be disappointed. And that disappointment is intended to teach us to do what we really want to do, as opposed to doing what we think will get somebody else to do it, or deliver it!… More

What does your happiness depend on?

The heart-wrenching pain of a breakup can be too severe to deny. But we don’t have to get pushed out the door to feel the pain of rejection.

Eons ago our survival depended on being sensitive to rejection; because without the protection of the tribe, we were dead meat. But the sensitivity that used to save us can make us miserable!

If you don’t believe me, just think about the last time you asked him if you looked fat. Chances are, he didn’t have to say anything; just looking like he didn’t know what to say was enough. Or what about the last time she mentioned a car or a vacation you couldn’t afford, maybe one her ex could have easily paid for?

We are biologically programmed to sense rejection as a sign that something is wrong with us … and because we grow up with words like “no,” “bad” and “evil,” unconscious feelings of inferiority are universal. We can get depressed or cranky without even realizing it’s because we got our feelings hurt.

It doesn’t really matter if you’re seven pounds overweight — and you knew you were before you asked. And who cares what you drive or where you vacation — what you really want is to be happy.… More

Until we live it, we’re still learning it. And to PRETEND we know it, is to postpone learning it. We have to practice!

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How beautiful are you?

As I age, I find it reassuring to see those older than I am still living their cool self. It occurs to me, though, that, even if nobody else were doing it, I still could. True beauty comes from the inside out. That cannot change. We will be beautiful as long as we let love shine through. … More

Is your helping at odds with loving?

When we help somebody with the idea that he can’t help himself, we fail to see all of him. We fail to respect and trust him. But when we gently ask questions, we offer a safe place for him to find his own way. We move toward loving him unconditionally. And we can do that when we have come to see, respect, trust, and love our self unconditionally. … More