Love is never needy. It is born of desire. It needs nothing to make it whole. It IS whole. So, do we ever really NEED somebody?

As human beings, we strive for love and belonging. And while we can find love within, we want it WITH somebody. And without that connection, we cease to exist.

But, do we ever need a particular person? If we find a soulmate, do we need THAT person? Or might there be another?

Physically, we need air, water, and food. And sex is also a biological need; without it, we remain unborn and, as a race, fail to survive. Spiritually, though, we are eternal. We survive, regardless.

Oneness with a soulmate is also eternal. And … that oneness is vital to who I am. I don’t need a soulmate as something or somebody apart from me, or apart from love. I need a soulmate as a part of who I am. A soulmate is not an option I take on to satisfy a need. A soulmate was always mine, a part of me, and will always be mine.

Ah, but I am more than spirit. I am flesh. And as a human being, I want to scream, “I NEED you, and I so want you.”… More

It’s amazing what happens when ego doesn’t get in the way of our relationships! We don’t have to be right. We work as a team, and let individual differences strengthen the team, rather than weaken it. We say fewer words trying to prove something or one-up each other. We drop the facade. We are more productive. We learn and grow. We are better students and better teachers.
We are more honest with ourselves and each other. We are more tolerant, compassionate, and forgiving. We are less anxious, less stressed, more self-assured, more clear, and more responsible.
We know peace and harmony, within and without. We are fearless. We are whole, because love is whole. … More

When’s the last time you tried something HE likes to do? Last time you grumbled because he was doing it?

Behavioral intimacy, or how much you like to do together, is one measure of compatibility. And you don’t really know if you like to jog, or golf, or play poker if you haven’t given it a fair chance. Try on your partner’s interests and enjoy the aspects that you can appreciate. You’ll learn more about what speaks to him, pleases her, energizes him, and relaxes her. You’ll understand him better, which makes it easier to love and accept him.

If you’re thinking, “Yeah right, like he’s going to take me jogging,” ask yourself why he wouldn’t. Maybe he assumes you’re not inclined to jog, because you have assumed you’re not. Why?

Then, think about what you would absolutely love to do and invite him to join you. If he declines, you can suggest an alternative, or do it without him. He might surprise you by accepting your invitation … and posing his own. If you want an invitation, don’t nag or complain; just give him one! Stay in touch with what nurtures you — physically, mentally, and spiritually — and share it.… More